Thank you to everyone who consoled me after my pity party yesterday. I had a MUCH better day today :-) I looked for it all day. This is for you, Britany :-). Today my "This is why it's all worth it" moment was...what's the word? Insightful?
Yeah, we'll use insightful.
Story: This morning, we got started on Toy Story 3 early...like 8:30. In the meantime, we got some of our morning things done, like breakfast, getting dressed, brushing teeth, and changing diapers (not necessarily in that order). Good start. When the movie was over, Evie promptly brought me the WRONG controller for the Xbox. As she reached out to give it to me, she said "Please." And as she set it on my lap and turned away she said "Thank You." There was barely a pause for me to say anything. She had made herself perfectly clear, and to her, there was no reason for her not to get what she had asked for. Such a cutie. (BTW, if I wasn't clear enough, she wanted me to start the movie for her. Again.)
I realize it might seem odd for me to choose this as my heavenly chorus of "Ah ah ah ah" moment of parenting.
I shall enlighten you.
Over the last couple of days, I've paid closer attention to my interactions with my daughter. She is getting better at communicating what she wants specifically. Six months ago we were doing good if she approached us with "Please?" and we didn't have to ask her to say it. Now she'll say "This way" or "Come" if she wants something. She also says "Thank You" by herself...sometimes.
Also, this afternoon, Evie grabbed her cup of milk, my hand, said "This way," pulled me into the kitchen, and stopped right in front of the sink. Once we made it to the sink, she held up both her arms for me to pick her up. I did as directed; she then proceeded to have me unscrew the lid to her cup, and she poured out the milk. After that unwanted bath, she threw the now empty cup into the sink. Next she wriggled around for me to put her down. She took my hand, "This way" again, pulled me two feet to the left and raised her arms, again. I picked her up, again; she leaned forward and opened the cupboard where we keep her cups. She carefully selected the closest cup, closed the cupboard door, and asked to be set down. Once again, she took my hand, "This way," and we ended ten feet to the right. Facing the fridge. She tried with all the might her 28 lbs body could muster to open that door. Then she took my hand, placed it on the handle, and asked "Please?" I opened the door, she took out a Capri Sun pack (I don't know why Brandon bought those for a TWO YEAR OLD. Regardless, we had them), gave it to me, and stated "Juice." She handed me her cup, and patiently waited as I transferred the sugar to her cup. After completing this series of commands, I was gratefully thanked by my daughter, and she went on her way.
(I'm sorry if this was long-winded for you.)
What hits me as a worthwhile moment from this is: We've actually, effectively, taught her to use "please" and "thank you." That feels like one battle won. Secondly, it is so...rewarding...for me to see how Evie can put a series of necessary events together like that in order to achieve a goal. She faltered not at all through that whole thing. She knew exactly what she wanted, and knew exactly what she had to do to get it. I'm discovering that my daughter is a determined little girl, which is a worthwhile thing to notice.
And that, my friends, is why my moments today were insightful, and not awe-inspiring or overly emotional.
Today was a good day.